FAQ

What is the order of wedding reception toasts?

Recent years have seen some changes with regards to the number of people giving a toast at a wedding. Traditionally, only the father of the bride, groom, and best man gave toasts, but that list has expanded to include additional family members and members of the wedding party. Below you can find the traditional order of wedding reception toasts, but this running order is by no means mandatory – so be sure to check with the bride and groom as to when you’ll be giving your speech!

  1. Father of the bride
  2. Mother of the bride (optional)
  3. Father of the groom
  4. Mother of the groom (optional)
  5. Groom
  6. Bride (optional)
  7. Maid of honor(optional)
  8. Best man

Sometimes not all speeches are done at the reception, and the rehearsal dinner may often include toasts from some of the people listed above, in addition to other friends of the bride and groom, or bridesmaids and groomsmen.

What do the best wedding toasts include?

A great wedding toast should be personal, sincere, and be able to resonate with all members of your audience. Most importantly, it should reflect your amazing and special relationship with the bride or groom. Check out the many helpful articles on this website for some fantastic wedding toast ideas and wedding toast samples!

When should I start preparing my speech?

Plan ahead! The months and weeks preceding a wedding can be incredibly busy and stressful, so do make sure to set time aside in your busy schedule to plan out your speech. Ask friends and family for some wedding toasts ideas, as it’s likely that you know at least one person who has given a speech at a wedding before! Start with a few ideas or memories of your time with the bride or groom: remember that your audience may not know the details of this relationship, so make sure that your speech has a beginning, middle and an end, and can be clearly followed by everyone. Make sure that you’re able to practice several times before the big day, and whatever you do, don’t wait until the night before to start writing!

Do I need to memorize my speech, or can I read it?

It is by no means expected that you will have your speech memorized, so feel free to bring a written copy of your speech or some helpful notecards! Even if you’ve gone through your speech several times and are convinced that you can ‘wing it’ or recite it from memory, it’s always good to have a back-up plan in case your nerves get the better of you. Giving a toast at a wedding can be a stressful event, no matter how much you’ve practiced and prepared, so do have a hardcopy of your speech for the reception!

How long should my wedding toast be?

The general rule is for wedding toasts to be no more than ten minutes in length – try to keep things short and sweet! Ultimately, however, the length of your wedding toast is dependent on how many other people are giving toasts.The toasts may be split between the rehearsal dinner and the wedding reception, or only a few people are given– if this is the case, you may be able to speak for slightly longer, but still be wary of time and always err on the side of brevity!

How can I overcome my nerves?

Practice makes perfect! Make sure that you read through your speech aloud several times, and even practice once or twice in front of the other members of the wedding party. The best wedding toasts are both well-written and confidently delivered, so do make sure that you’re comfortable with reading your words aloud by practicing as often as possible. Toasts at weddings celebrate the amazing relationships that the guests have with the bride and groom, so don’t forget to have fun and be your amazing self!