funny wedding toast ideasYour son is getting married, but now you need to write your mother of the groom wedding toast! While the mother of the groom has many responsibilities leading up to and on the day of the wedding, one of the most important is giving a short speech at either the rehearsal dinner or at the wedding reception. Here you can find all you need to know about delivering a mother of the groom speech!

What is the Mother of the Groom Speech?

Though this toast makes a regular appearance at rehearsal dinners and weddings today, this has been a relatively recent development – several wedding websites and magazines still do not include it in their guides to your son’s big day! There will be quite a few toasts at the wedding reception itself, so the bride and groom may elect to have the mother of the groom toast as part of the line-up of rehearsal dinner speeches. This setting allows for a more casual and relaxed atmosphere, and the speeches given at the rehearsal dinner are usually shorter than those given at the reception – so aim to speak for only 5-10 minutes. If you have a special wedding present for your son, this might be an opportune moment to give it to him as well.

If you are giving your mother of the groom speech at the wedding reception, it will be part of a series of speeches and toasts done by various members of the wedding party. Every wedding is unique so make sure to double-check the running order with your son and his wife! Toasts during the reception are generally longer than those given during the rehearsal dinner, but your toast is still one of several being given, so do be wary of time and err on the side of brevity (the general rule is about 10 minutes). People will be looking at their watches, eager to have another sip of their champagne…

What Should the Mother of the Groom Wedding Toast Include?

Whether you are speaking at the rehearsal dinner or the wedding reception, a mother’s wedding speech should focus on her son and the special relationship you have as parent and child. Reflect on the time you and your son have spent together, and consider how your relationship has changed throughout the years. How did you feel when he first came to you for advice? Was there a time when a fight with your teenage son turned into shared laughter or tears? Maybe he first spoke to you about asking his wife to marry him, or confided to you that she was ‘the one’. If you’re still stuck for ideas, click here to see examples of a mother of the groom speech, or ask for advice from a friend or family member who has given a wedding toast before.

Some Final Advice…

Besides the groom’s father, no other person has been with the groom all of his life. Try to paint a broad picture of your son for the guests, beginning with his childhood and ending with the man he is today. As you are speaking at his wedding, it is general practice to include a brief story about the your son and his wife as a couple towards the end of your toast. Even if you had a bad first impression of the bride, or maybe still do not particularly like her, remember that he is the most important woman in your son’s life – this is not the time to recount for all the guests how she once flirted with your other son, or blew off family Thanksgiving for a friend’s party! If you don’t know the bride that well, make an effort to speak to her before the wedding – a quick email asking for details about the ceremony, reception, etc. can help get the ball rolling – or ask about her more frequently when you talk with your son. If you’d like to know more about writing a mother of the groom wedding toast, click here for advice!

On the day, remember to keep your toast positive, be confident in your delivery and, most importantly, have fun! With this important information in mind, you now know all you need to know about delivering a mother of the groom speech that your son will remember forever!

Leave Your Response

* Name, Email, Comment are Required